Eighties Nerd!~

When I was younger and it was around Halloween some friends and I decided to dress like nerds, the sixties. When I got home from work I decided to tell my mom and ask her if I could barrow some clothes, which I thought was hilarious. Well, my mother didn’t think it was that funny and I have never lived it down.

Today,  my youngest daughters choir concert and they are to dress like the 80’s. I went to Savers to find her the big sweatshirt, big belt and leggings. She was excited to see my finds and quickly went to work cutting the collar, pulling her hair to side and the blue eye shadow.

When we arrived at the concert, I could tell  the girls that  mothers were teenagers in the eighties because they all had the same theme as Lyndsey.  The singing was wonderful and we had a great time.

Today’s Lesson: At sometime in our lives we are all nerds. Sorry Mom, but just think  sweet revenge because, now I am the Nerd!

Published in: on February 27, 2009 at 2:51 am  Leave a Comment  

Lessons Learned in Business

In my life I have learned many valuable lessons. Some were easy to learn, like not pulling something out of the oven without a thick oven mitt. Some were hard like when a friend doesn’t always have your same moral standing and you lose a dear friend. The hardest for me has been our whole business closing.

When we stated our transportation business it was like a new love. A love that you give your heart and a lot of your time. The excitement of the new adventures and the dreams of things to come. The sense of accomplishment in doing something that helps others. Wanting to be the best transportation company in the area.

While helping in our business I learned how to make brochures and newsletters. How to write our employee manual and when we closed just recycling them, garbage no need and no use for them any longer, depressing. We and our employees worked hard and clients were asking for us by name and letting all those fine people go.  The biggest lesson I learned is your business may fail but it doesn’t make you who you are. You feel like a failure but this too shall pass.

Today’s lesson: Don’t make your net worth more then your self worth!

Have a blessed day, Candy

Published in: on February 24, 2009 at 2:57 pm  Leave a Comment  

No Strings Attached!

Have you ever received a gift with no strings attached? A gift just because someone wanted to give. This morning after baking cookies for cheerleading and boiling eggs for Food for Thought. My husband Randy and I went out to Bedford Christian Community Church in Temperance, Michigan. I read on Monroe on a Budget The church was to have a free box food give away for Monroe county and Lucas county. No proof of income just come and receive a free box of food. When I read the story my first thought was what’s the catch? I decided to make the drive and check it out. There were quite a few cars when we arrived at 9:04am everyone drove in and a box was loaded in the car and drove out.  The church’s mission

It was very refreshing to see so many in the church giving to so many others.That sense of community I think so many of us are looking for.  Giving with No Strings Attached Like a gift given for all  over 2000 years ago and that’s my food for thought today. God’s Blessings on you, Candy

Thank you to Bedford Christian Community Church for showing a light in this down time and Paula at Monroe on a Budget. If you live in the Monroe or Lucas county area, please check out her site. She finds the happenings and does all the work and we get to reap the benefits.

Published in: on February 21, 2009 at 9:58 pm  Leave a Comment  

Hearts are a funny thing!

Yesterday, we went to the Henry Ford Museum, it was family day and was free. We had a great day and my youngest pulled me aside and said “Mom, today was awesome!” Something so little and inexpensive will be remembered by him for a long time and  in my heart forever!

In June my family closed our transportation business. This was a huge blow to finances, self esteem and psyche. I think many are going through this right now. I was hurt with some of the reactions I got from friends &  family members, kind of a cut in your heart (The funny thing with the heart is with time it heals) I am blessed I can write here and get things off my chest, some may not have this chance. Here is the website The Letter I Cannot Send it started out as a site to vent and then has become a memorial to loved ones passed, love notes and even some poems. Please check it out!

Today’s Lesson: The heart can remember and heal all for love!

Published in: on February 17, 2009 at 12:40 pm  Leave a Comment  

The other side of the story

Last night, I was invited to a bible study at a woman’s shelter in Toledo. I met the leader Michelle, at her home and a few other ladies before, to ride together. Now mind you I really don’t know any of them. Michelle, I met at Food for Thought, my new Saturday routine with the homeless. Michelle invited me in and I sat with them for a few minutes. They were in the middle of a conversation when one said “Yeah, well my mom said her worst day was seeing me go to prison” I knew it was going to be a learning experience.

We paired off in two cars, I rode with Michelle. She asked me “What did you think when you heard prison?” she told me this lady was at the shelter when they started having the Bible study and now is one of the leaders. We didn’t talk about offenses, but she has had 20 years of struggle and is on her way out.

When we arrived the women were happy to see us and they were clearing off the table from dinner and then we could have our gathering. The lady with her 20 year struggle (I call her Lori) lead our study and it was on Deborah found in the book of Judges. Deborah was the only woman leader in the Bible. Lori asked the woman there how many of you think you need a man to get by? There is only one man you need right now and that is Jesus.

After our study we made a craft and had some dessert we brought and I listen to the conversations, I realized men our important to them and many of them have a love reality, which is if I am in love I will be happy.

About the woman in the shelter: When they arrive and change out of street clothes and put on pajamas. The ladies, can only sleep there for the night and in the morning the woman eat breakfast change back into their street clothes and leave. There is no staying in when it is cold or rainy. Relaxing with a cup of coffee. It’s back to the streets for another day. I used to always say I am lucky but have changed my words to I am blessed as I am sitting here writing this enjoying my coffee, warm home, a husband and family that loves me. I am so blessed that my mom raised me in the faith and I know God loves me and I hope these ladies grow to know God is there for them.

I appreciate how honest the women were with me and I will go back in a few weeks.

Today’s Lesson: We all have different walks in life and you may think you know another persons story, my mom also said “you don’t know someones story until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes and to always try to look at the other side of the story.”

Published in: on February 13, 2009 at 1:31 pm  Leave a Comment  

Forward to Mom’s!

This morning I received an email from my mom. I usually don’t like forwarded emails, Why?  Because you have the fear if you don’t send in so many minutes, hours, days or maybe to a certain amount of people something bad will happen. I hate the whole thought of it and refuse to do it and delete them. I don’t know the author, but I thought this is so true and want to give all mom’s a boost.


Real Mothers don’t eat quiche;
they don’t have time to make it.

Real Mothers know that their kitchen utensils
are probably in the sandbox.

Real Mothers often have sticky floors,
filthy ovens and happy kids.

Real Mothers know that dried play dough
doesn’t come out of carpets.

Real Mothers don’t want to know what
the vacuum just sucked up.

Real Mothers sometimes ask ‘Why me?’
and get their answer when a little
voice says, ‘Because I love you best.’

Real Mothers know that a child’s growth
is not measured by height or years or grade…
It is marked by the progression of Mommy to Mom to Mother…

The Images of Mother

4 YEARS OF AGE – My Mommy can do anything!

8 YEARS OF AGE – My Mom knows a lot! A whole lot!

12 YEARS OF AGE – My Mother doesn’t really know quite every thing.

14 YEARS OF AGE – Naturally, Mother doesn’t know that, either.

16 YEARS OF AGE – Mother? She’s hopelessly old-fashioned.

18 YEARS OF AGE – That old woman? She’s way out of date!

25 YEARS OF AGE – Well, she might know a little bit about it!

35 YEARS OF AGE – Before we decide, let’s get Mom’s opinion.

45 YEARS OF AGE – Wonder what Mom would have thought about it?

65 YEARS OF AGE – Wish I could talk it over with Mom.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears,
the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes,
because that is the doorway to her heart,
the place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole,
but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.
It is the caring that she lovingly gives,
the passion that she shows,
and the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows!

Please send this to 5 Mom’s today.

If you don’t, nothing bad will happen, but if you do, something good will happen:
You will boost a Mother spirits.

Mom’s, there is some light and the end of the tunnel and it comes from a reliable source My Mom!

Published in: on February 11, 2009 at 11:57 am  Leave a Comment  

My Food For Thought!

It’s Saturday again and I got my Food for Thought! Today my niece Angie went with me and the temperature was awesome, no gloves today. I wanted to say Food for Thought isn’t just to feed some of Toledo’s homeless, I have it decided it’s for me too! When I got downtown I saw my homeless friend, Larry. I introduced my niece to him and he said she always talks about you all the time and Angie said What? I said he is kidding and he just started laughing I said he’s a character and he said yea that’s what they call me! Later Larry was in line for food and he said “what’s wrong with that guy on the phone he sounds crazy” (It was a teenager on a cell phone), I got a chuckle because this was coming from the guy with lipstick not just on this lips but on his cheeks too!

Some new friends I met this week;

Lee, I have seen him before but today I asked his name. Lee has a great smile.

Wayne, a man that stopped to tell me what a blessing it is (Food For Thought) We talked about how warm it is outside and a man named Jim chimed in and said but it’s windy! Wayne quickly said well thank the Lord it’s not below zero like last time. Jim told me of a local Pastor that gave him money to buy a backpack a few weeks ago and he bought one, He was very proud of it. Jim lives at the Cherry street Mission.

Richard, the man that finally reached his family is going home March 8th and his birthday is the March 9th. He told me he doesn’t have sugar and his foot should be fine. I told him I’ve been praying for him and he said “I don’t know how to pray!” I said I really don’t either I just talk to God and he said that’s what I do, just talk. I said well you are praying. He said some great things have been happening and this week he found $20 on the ground and no one was around and God must have known he needed it. Isn’t it funny how the Lord does take care of us,  I have been trying to say I am blessed instead of I am lucky!

Last week, I wrote the Mayor of Toledo about the amazing thing going on Saturday’s in front of the Toledo Library and He has invited me to meet with him Monday. Boy Mike,that young guy that told me to get out of my comfort zone would be proud, I am really getting out of it!

Today’s Lesson: Make your comfort zone more comfortable!

Published in: on February 7, 2009 at 8:04 pm  Leave a Comment  

The Letter I Cannot Send!

Have you ever had a letter you cannot send? A love one that has passed, things you never got to say. I lost my brother 9 years ago and never got to say goodbye, he commit suicide.

The Letter I Cannot Send-A place to get it off your chest, out of your mind and let it go. I think for me the hardest thing is letting go. Forgive and forget I grew up with hearing “I can forgive, but I can’t forget!” Did you ever think about this statement? To forgive and remember. Remember the offense and forgive I think that makes forgiveness a gift, one that I have been given many times.

I remember some years back my brother was staying at my folks after he had hurt them many times. I said to my mom “Why is he here, I can’t believe you are letting him stay here!” When she said “He is my son and I forgive him!” I couldn’t believe it, I guess I was a little jealous. Something Just this year made me think of this story when I was at church and heard the Parable of the Prodigal Son and I thought I was the Prodigal’s brother! I called my mom to say, I was so sorry and she had forgiven and forgot this long ago.

My brother has been gone for 9 years and I am now glad my mom had the time with him. No thanks to me. This was one of my regrets I wished I could have forgave and remembered, giving my brother a gift. I hope my brother knows I loved him and I am glad my mom showed unconditional love for her son and me, her daughter.

If you may have a letter you cannot send here is a your chance!

Published in: on February 6, 2009 at 1:01 pm  Leave a Comment  

Be Yourself My Friend!

Have you ever felt alone? When I was younger a had a great friend, but as I got older it seemed this friend only wanted me to feel the way she felt, no honest opinions or free thinking. There was an incident where she thought it was better to leave her family of a husband and 4 children and go another way. I voiced my opinion and it didn’t go over very well. She was very upset that  I didn’t agree with her decision. so we didn’t talk for awhile. I saw her in a social setting sometime later and she treated me terrible and embarrassed me in front of the other guests. When I left and was driving home I thought; Why do you have a friend that you can’t be yourself? I had this friend for 20 years and I was never Me, no more I had to be who the Lord intended and go with my conscience (I have heard your conscience is the Lord speaking to you!)

I prayed for a friend, someone who loved me the way I am flaws and all. That prayer was answered, I don’t even exactly know when but I have found my friend. My friend has moved and lives in North Carolina and we get up at 6am on Thursdays to pray for our children and to talk a little. Robin has 4 children and so do I. It is wonderful to know someone cares for your children as you do. To lift them up to the Lord. Today Robin joked because our kids are all doing great and we need to start praying for the adults. It is wonderful to have a friend you can be yourself.

Today’s lesson  Be yourself and I pray you all have a dear friend!

Published in: on February 5, 2009 at 1:11 pm  Leave a Comment