Bring back Sunday family dinner!

The Sunday family dinner. Many of you may have memories of all the family including grandparents, cousins, aunts and uncles all meeting for a Sunday dinner. You may have had 20+ people, but family wanted to be together. Simpler times….. or was it?  We have so many luxuries and conveniences, but we are over extended with stuff to do.

Last month my folks surprised us with a dinner after a function for our boys, it was such a pleasant surprise. It was my folks, sister and brother in law and all 6 of us.  Two weeks later we brought them dinner.  Tomorrow we have a function for my oldest son and my mom and sister are bringing us dinner.We will all eat together.  I think this is our attempt for the Sunday dinner in a modern way. Taking the time to just enjoy one another  in this busy world.

Today’s Valuable Lesson: Please bring back the Sunday dinner and enjoy your family.

Published in: on March 28, 2009 at 10:31 pm  Leave a Comment  

Touching Lesson!

Guest Post from my dear friend Robin:

After moving out of state with our 4 children, it was time to begin school.  A few months went by and I notice our youngest daughter started coming home with some different gestures and speech.  It was not favorable!  One day following school I brought it to her attention as we sat at the diner table.  She was defensive.  I was trying to make her see that sometimes it is better to have no friends then hang with someone who’s morals and motives are questionable.  She continued to argue that this friend was not changing her. I then directed her attention to the fruit on the table, especially the peach that had started to rot.  I ask her what she thought would happen if I left that bad peach remain by all the other beautiful ones.  She said it would make them rot too and you simply take it out of the bunch.  There was a pause and she started laughing, realizing her friend was the “bad peach.” Our daughter has since made some different friends that reflect more of the fruits of the Spirit.

“Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.'” I Corinthians 15:33

Thank you Robin for your “touching Lesson” Candy

Published in: on March 25, 2009 at 10:00 am  Comments (1)  

Food for thought on hugs!

This morning I had the wonderful opportunity to have some others from my church come with me to food for thought. Melanie is a young woman that has a heart for the Lord and the youth in our church and Rose is a Christan friend that has shown me there is light after a business failure. Both of them brought extra things to get today and for the food for thought pantry. I introduced them to some of the friends I have made along the way.

Michelle the lady I met a few weeks back shared her story of 20 years of crack addiction and was homeless. Now is one of the helpers for food for thought. She has a host family and has agreed to stay with them for one year before she gets her own place. The first time I met Michelle when I left I gave her a hug and when we left the leader approached me and said do you know how amazing that just was and I said what? She said you gave Michelle a hug and she doesn’t hug, she doesn’t like people in her personal space and she hugged you back. Today I hugged her and later I even saw her hugging the leader, One hug at a time changing the world! Michelle introduced us to Dee her host mom.

Dee has a business and gives all profits she makes to food for thought. She is launching some craft parties to help fund more. How wonderful giving for the greater cause.

Nicole the homeless lady that asked me to pray a few weeks back has found out she does not have cancer but was told if she wants children now is the time because they would like to do an hysterectomy. She told me she is unsure what to do.

Hannah a young lady I met at the woman’s shelter found out she is having a boy and is naming him Blake. She had told me a few weeks back she intends to move out of the shelter after her baby is born and is going to live in a mobile home for $250 a month.

Derek was there today and he is a light for the Lord,  I told you when I met him the first week I went to food for thought. We hugged and I introduced him to Melanie and he said can I hug her and said she’s a hugger too. Derek and Melanie want to have Free Hug signs. I love to hug I have always been a hugger and I think when you hug you are showing that person you care for them, God’s love!

Kelsey’s Boyfriend Joel Came with his friend Andrew and I got to hug him and I didn’t see him again. Speaking of hugs the first time I met Joel I hugged him and he said it has been so long since I have had a hug. Hugs do matter!

When My children were little we would say “your hug tank needs filled up” and hug them an say glug, glug, glug and get faster and keep doing it until they would smile and that meant it was filled. We sure are a goofy family, but I wouldn’t trade them for any amount of money.

Today’s Lesson: Fill up someones hug tank, glug, glug, glug

Published in: on March 21, 2009 at 5:19 pm  Leave a Comment  

A Time To Mourn

Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Mr Common Sense.     Mr. Sense has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape.

He will be remembered as having cultivated such value lessons as knowing when to come in out of the rain, why the early bird gets the worm and that life isn’t always fair. Common Sense Lived by simple, sound financial policies (don’t spend more than you earn) and reliable parenting strategies (adults, not kids are in charge). His health began to rapidly deteriorate when well intentioned but over bearing regulations were set in place. – Reports of a six year old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; a teacher fired for reprimanding a unruly student, only worsened his condition. Mr. Sense declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer aspirin to a student; but, could not inform the parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion. Finally, Common Sense lost the will to live as the ten commandments became contraband; churches became businesses; criminals received better treatment then their victims. Common Sense finally gave up the ghost after a woman failed to realize that steaming coffee was hot, she spilled a bit in her lap, and was awarded a huge financial settlement.

Comon Sense was preceded in death by his parents Truth and Trust, his wife, Discretion; his daughter, Responsibility; his son, Reason. He is survived by two step brothers; MY Rights and Ima Whiner. Not many attended the funeral because so few realized he was gone.                                                           Author Unknown

Look, what has our world as become!  I know CPR maybe it isn’t too late to bring Common Sense back………. My own food for thought, today.

Published in: on March 19, 2009 at 10:49 am  Leave a Comment  

Valuable lesson, just one!

If you could pass one valuable lesson on before you die, what would it be? As I am thinking about this questions it would be hard for me to pick one. As a parent you want to pass all your lessons to your children. I asked some in my family this question and this is some of their answers.

– Get to know the Lord……Randy

– Life’s an adventure….. Michelle

– Live, Laugh, Learn Ha…. Jacob

– Let me think about ….. Kelsey

For me Love with your whole heart. Remember sometimes you may get hurt but your heart always heals!

What would yours be?

Have a blessed day, Candy

Published in: on March 19, 2009 at 1:33 am  Leave a Comment  

Food for thought

This weekend I had my food for thought in downtown Toledo. My daughter and her boyfriend came along and they told me “We are hooked” food for thought started out as me getting out of my comfort zone and truly loving my neighbor and has become meeting with friends. One thing I love about food for thought is you don’t know who is homeless and who is a helper, we are all equal and it is truly amazing. Some of the friends I talked with were:

Joan, the mom in the wheelchair gave me some real food for thought. In our conversation she said I like to give the Lord 10% of my time, I give him 2 1/2 hours each day. I have always thought and heard give the Lord 10%, but I never thought 2 1/2 hours of each day give to him. Last night, I was even dreaming about how this can be accomplished and I figured it out. Pray without ceasing 17 – 10 minute prayers throughout the day. I get up and pray in the mornings but not for 2 1/2 hours. I need to work on this. I was thinking all the adversity Joan has had and her faith is strong, what an inspiration! Joan also gave me a recipe for cake mix peanut butter cookies, I would like to try this week and she said the cheaper the cake mix the better, very frugal.

Lee the man with the great smile. I asked him how his week went and he told me he had been scraping a little He likes to scrap copper. I told him I collect cans and go when I have a car load. Lee told me he doesn’t have a car and walks and carries his scrap to the recycling yard. The things we take for granted!

Richard the man that I thought went to be with his children was there this week and I wonder if he is really going. Maybe it didn’t work out with the kids. Family is so important and I hope I always have them near.

There were so many little children this week. With the warmer weather  think we are getting more people. Homeless, low income and I know it is growing with the state of our economy. God’s Blessings on you all, Candy

Published in: on March 16, 2009 at 10:24 pm  Leave a Comment  

Free Hugs!

Published in: on March 15, 2009 at 12:04 am  Leave a Comment  

Get together, UNITE, or Die

Last month while visiting at my sister in laws home. She invited our family to come to her home for a luncheon after church. She invited friends and family. We were unable to attend due to a conflict, but I asked her the name of her club and she said “the get together club!”  Her club will rotate to other homes once a month. Tonight, we had guests come for a spaghetti dinner, a kind of “get together club” we had dinner, dessert, watched a great movie and talked to each other.

We watched a taped episode of Glenn Beck. I want to say listening to Glenn Beck is more my husband Randy’s thing more  then myself. I sometimes get overwhelmed listening to him, but I have to say he is doing something amazing and I think it is something I want to be a part of.  He has a new project called the 9-12 project and I won’t be able to to explain it as well as I would like, but I will try. Do remember how you felt on 9/11?  How American’s had the grief of loss, the anger of being attacked and the shock. Then came  9/12 when we vowed to hold our children a little tighter, went back to church, thought about how important life and Liberty are and we said we will NEVER FORGET, but guess what we have. I don’t want to say we forgot about 9/11, but we forgot the United America part.  Glenn Beck’s new 9/12 project has 9 principles and 12 values and here is his list.

The Nine Principles

1. America is good.

2. I believe in God and He is the Center of my Life.

3. I must always try to be a more honest person than I was yesterday.

12 Values

  • Honesty
  • Reverence
  • Hope
  • Thrift
  • Humility
  • Charity
  • Sincerity
  • Moderation
  • Hard Work
  • Courage
  • Personal Responsibility
  • Gratitude

4. The family is sacred. My spouse and I are the ultimate authority, not the government.

5. If you break the law you pay the penalty. Justice is blind and no one is above it.

6. I have a right to life, liberty and pursuit of happiness, but there is no guarantee of equal results.

7. I work hard for what I have and I will share it with who I want to. Government cannot force me to be charitable.

8. It is not un-American for me to disagree with authority or to share my personal opinion.

9. The government works for me. I do not answer to them, they answer to me.


Last week I told you of a way to thank our service men and woman.  They protect and serve our country. One of Glenn’s guest talked of how he was wounded and made his way to a small town in Afghanistan and this town ritual was to protect anymore that made their way to their town protect even to the death. We has American don’t want to get involved, it’s not our place. I once watched a show a man was hit by a car, laying in the street and people looked on and no one went to help and he was hit by another car and that driver got out. Would you help, save and protect your fellow man. Families dump other family members and they don’t care about the hurt they caused. What is wrong here? Where is the LOVE THY NEIGHBOR? Love thy neighbor isn’t just our physical neighbor it is our community, family, homeless and neighbors.

After the show we talked about the lists Glenn posted and how we need to get back to basics. Our “get together club”  will meet next month and work on the community part of America we have been missing. Way to go Glenn!

Published in: on March 14, 2009 at 12:36 pm  Leave a Comment  

Thank you for your service

Today, I went to my Great Uncle’s Funeral. Uncle Joe was 91 years old. He was a humble man and I loved his smile. He was a recipient of the Purple Heart and The Silver Star , a veteran of  WWII  and was a hero. I didn’t know these things until yesterday. He died 9 years ago to the day my Grandma died, his sister.

In the United States of America we have those in the service and I try to say Thank you for your service. I saw this last year and thought I would share. The Gratitude Campaign, a way to say Thank you to those who serve our Country. Many family’s are also sacrificing by their loved ones by serving and lost lives, so I try to thank the family’s also.

For me those in the service our serving our Country and their family’s are too!  God’s blessings, Candy

Published in: on March 10, 2009 at 11:18 am  Leave a Comment  

Food for thought

Today, I went downtown for my food for thought. My husband Randy came with me today and he passed out the eggs and I passed out my candy. I have to say there was a sale on chocolate bars and my homeless friends love chocolate. I just had to smile when some would politely ask can I have a different kind or that’s my favorite. So grateful for a piece of chocolate.

When I arrived Joan the sweet  lady in the wheelchair, said “oh there is my Candy girl.” I finally got to meet her 8 year old son David. He told me he needed a sweatshirt. Joan told me she had told him it was chilly out and he should wear something warmer. He didn’t and now was cold. We found him a coat in the trailer.  When he put it on Joan giggled with excitement, of how nice a coat he received. Joan also told me I only have a few more days to get my Angel food order in. The very first time I met Joan we were talking about our growing boys and she asked if I had heard of Angel food. I thought how wonderful I had met a frugal friend.

Richard the man that is going back to Detroit wasn’t there today. His birthday is tomorrow and he is leaving on Monday. I wanted to say goodbye and Happy birthday, but it is wonderful he has moved on and is going to be with family. He told me last week he wasn’t going to stay with his children but with a friend. He said “Children are suppose to live with their parents not children taking care of their parents!”  When I watched Oprah’s homeless show last week, I did hear parents telling the reporter their children didn’t know they were homeless because “We don’t want to worry them” (their Children).

Jason a younger man that was full of the spirit had a psychedelic headband in his hair when Larry my friend that wears clown make up each week, told Jason he liked it and where did he get it?  Jason said he made it. He told how he cut a shirt sleeve off a t-shirt and now wears it. Very frugal, I thought. Well Larry told him “well, I like it and could you make me one?” Jason said “I can do that man!”

The homeless and less fortunate of Toledo are showing me the sense of community, I think we all have been needed. Working together, helping each other out to make a better day. If we all work together I think we can get through this!

Today’s lesson: Better days are coming, if we work together. Even in need we all have something to offer!

Published in: on March 8, 2009 at 11:19 am  Leave a Comment